I have always been an introvert, or rather a loner. I prefer to spend time alone, doing things by myself whenever I can. Naturally, I lived alone after I left home 6 years back and moved to the city to pursue my post-graduate degree. I made a couple of great friends in college and at work, but never had the idea of sharing my flat crossed my mind, until 5 months back, when I made an amazing friend.
Obviously, we moved into a spacious rental apartment, and I thought that things would simply fall into place. But that’s not how it works, right?
It didn’t take me long to realize that when two different personalities decide to live under one roof, a lot of different opinions are going to come up. And that’s exactly what happened.
After much fights and making up later, today I am a pro at adjusting with another when it comes to sharing our personal space. I’ve decided to share this newfound wisdom with all you readers who want to make living together with your roommates or friends a peaceful journey: –
Adjustment Is Compromise Not Sacrifice
This is the crux of it all. Living together is sharing with your roommate and letting go of your ego. But this sharing doesn’t have to be unconditional; just selfless.
When I started living with my best friend, I wanted her to spend our free time together. Although my friend loves going out, she did give in to my wishes. But I could sense that she wasn’t always happily willing to do so.
Therefore, we settled on dedicating Saturdays solely to whatever she wanted to do (mostly movies, or catching up with friends, et al) and Sundays lazing at home as I wanted. This way, both of us get our wishes granted!
Get Your Finances Right
When you are sharing a living space with another, finances can come in between as you share a lot of other things too. Since she liked to go out, she had this habit of splurging at times. By the way, I’m no less of a spender either. It’s just that our choices are different.
When we moved in together, I wanted to furnish the hell out of our flat. But, furniture is expensive; also, as she put it “spending big money on furniture is insensible,”
She was right. We could put our money to better use. But since we still needed some furniture, she suggested we rent it rather than buy. I liked this idea of #SubscriptionLifestyle. After much browsing, we went for rentomojo.com and ordered a lovely sofa cum bed, mattresses, wardrobes and a few other sundry pieces. What’s better, the site also rents out appliances like TV, fridge and washing machine cutting down our expenses further.
She was right. We could put our money to better use. But since we still needed some furniture, she suggested we rent it rather than buy. I liked this idea of #SubscriptionLifestyle. After much browsing, we went for rentomojo.com and ordered a lovely sofa cum bed, mattresses, wardrobes and a few other sundry pieces. What’s better, the site also rents out appliances like TV, fridge and washing machine cutting down our expenses further
Share Household Chores
We never had a maid. We would always split up the household chores. If we are cooking, then one of us is in charge of putting the dish on the table while the other cleans up later. Since we also #SmartlyOwn a washing machine on rent, housework is not that hard. It might sound tiring, but it’s a great way to share responsibilities and bond.
Enjoy Some Time Away From One Another
This is a must. You guys need to spend some time exclusively with your boys and girls! It does your body and mind good to stay away from one other from time to time.
Pursue Your Passions Together
Join in with your roommate in doing things they love and ask them to try your passions as well. Exercising and travelling together is worth a try!
Keep Things Amiable
Joy is in the small things, and so are potential arguments. Just stay calm and don’t let small differences grow in on your relationship with your roommate. If you too have any valuable tips to give, do share them in the comments below.
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